Why am I passionate about this?

Look around us—DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) is under attack. From challenges to the Voting Rights Act and bans on books to the suppression of history and education, protections and rights are being rolled back. We must all recognize that systemic racism, patriarchy, homophobia, and other forms of discrimination harm not only the oppressed but also those who ostensibly benefit from these structures. It is time to move beyond passive or performative allyship and become proactive Disruptors—individuals willing to stand up and use their voices to advocate for equity and mutual respect. 


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Race Rules: What Your Black Friend Won't Tell You

By Fatimah Gilliam,

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“Those looking to move beyond performative allyship will find this an excellent resource.” —Publishers Weekly

"Well-informed, hard-hitting advice for antiracists.”…

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Fatimah Gilliam Why did I love this book?

This is a wonderful book!

The ways in which we lead must be examined in order to lead with compassion and empathy. Traditionally, leaders have used a top-down approach to leadership, very regimented and militaristic, but we are talking about people not war. So how can one lead a people, an organization, in a way that is efficient and allows for growth?

Koenig’s approach is less a “heroic” leadership style but one that is human-centered, seeing humility as strength is key to achieving goals in a multicultural and complex society.

By Urs Koenig,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Radical Humility as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

“A game-changing book that redefines leadership in the modern world.” ―Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, Thinkers50 #1 Executive Coach and New York Times bestselling author of The Earned Life, Triggers, and What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

When veteran executive coach, professor, and ultraendurance champion Urs Koenig signed up to be a NATO peacekeeping commander and United Nations peacekeeper in his fifties, he thought he knew a thing or two about leadership.

What he discovered was a new way of thinking that replaces the top-down, “heroic” leadership of the past with a more human-centered approach that views humility as a…


Book cover of The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America's Great Migration

Fatimah Gilliam Why did I love this book?

This New York Times bestselling book and Pulitzer Prize winner is an epic story of the American exodus from 1915 to 1970. Six million people sought the promise of the American Dream outside the segregated South, forever changing America’s demographics with their migration. This is a stunning historical text that is profound in its details and an incredible joy to read.

The people Wilkerson profiles through research and interview feel like family—an aunt, an uncle, a cousin—because many of us have heard stories of family migrating during that period. This book illuminates the joys and sorrows of those seeking to better themselves and those they love.

By Isabel Wilkerson,

Why should I read it?

19 authors picked The Warmth of Other Suns as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE AWARD WINNER • NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • In this beautifully written masterwork, the Pulitzer Prize–winnner and bestselling author of Caste chronicles one of the great untold stories of American history: the decades-long migration of black citizens who fled the South for northern and western cities, in search of a better life.

From 1915 to 1970, this exodus of almost six million people changed the face of America. Wilkerson compares this epic migration to the migrations of other peoples in history. She interviewed more than a thousand people, and gained access to new data and official…


Book cover of The Sum of Us: What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together

Fatimah Gilliam Why did I love this book?

This is an amazing book that explores the economic struggles of Americans from Maine to California. McGhee engages with people of all races to deliver an analysis of The American Dream steeped in race and opportunity hoarding, including how racism hurts white people and undermines our collective advancement.

It is a great starting point to understand how widespread, insidious, and entrenched racism is in our daily lives.

By Heather McGhee,

Why should I read it?

9 authors picked The Sum of Us as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LONGLISTED FOR THE NATIONAL BOOK AWARD • One of today’s most insightful and influential thinkers offers a powerful exploration of inequality and the lesson that generations of Americans have failed to learn: Racism has a cost for everyone—not just for people of color.

WINNER OF THE PORCHLIGHT BUSINESS BOOK AWARD • ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: Time, The Washington Post, St. Louis Post-Dispatch, Ms. magazine, BookRiot, Library Journal

“This is the book I’ve been waiting for.”—Ibram X. Kendi, #1 New York Times bestselling author of How to Be an Antiracist

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Book cover of We Should All Be Feminists

Fatimah Gilliam Why did I love this book?

I am deeply connected with this essay. It filled me with joy that someone understood my experiences. How sexual politics permeates a lot of the daily interactions we experience, and just what it means to be a woman.

It had me reexamine my ideas of womanhood and my engagement with Patriarchy. This elegant, eloquent book is an empowering call to tear down gender hierarchies.

By Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked We Should All Be Feminists as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The highly acclaimed, provocative essay on feminism and sexual politics—from the award-winning author of Americanah

In this personal, eloquently-argued essay—adapted from the much-admired TEDx talk of the same name—Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie offers readers a unique definition of feminism for the twenty-first century. Drawing extensively on her own experiences and her deep understanding of the often masked realities of sexual politics, here is one remarkable author’s exploration of what it means to be a woman now—and an of-the-moment rallying cry for why we should all be feminists.


Book cover of Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia

Fatimah Gilliam Why did I love this book?

This book is a historical narrative that begins in the Renaissance of the 14th century and explores the relationship between Black women’s bodies and race.

It was an eye-opening and emotional book that made me grapple with my own body issues and how women negotiate their place in the larger society.

By Sabrina Strings,

Why should I read it?

8 authors picked Fearing the Black Body as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Winner, 2020 Body and Embodiment Best Publication Award, given by the American Sociological Association
Honorable Mention, 2020 Sociology of Sex and Gender Distinguished Book Award, given by the American Sociological Association
How the female body has been racialized for over two hundred years
There is an obesity epidemic in this country and poor black women are particularly stigmatized as "diseased" and a burden on the public health care system. This is only the most recent incarnation of the fear of fat black women, which Sabrina Strings shows took root more than two hundred years ago.
Strings weaves together an eye-opening…


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Race Rules: What Your Black Friend Won't Tell You

By Fatimah Gilliam,

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What is my book about?

“Those looking to move beyond performative allyship will find this an excellent resource.” —Publishers Weekly

"Well-informed, hard-hitting advice for antiracists.” —Kirkus Reviews

What if there were a set of rules to educate people against race-based social faux pas that damage relationships, perpetuate racist stereotypes, and harm people of color? This book provides just that in an effort to slow the malignant domino effect of race-based ignorance in American communities and workplaces to help address the vestiges of our nation’s racist past.

Race Rules is an innovative, practical manual for white people of the unwritten rules relating to race, explaining the unvarnished truth about racist and offensive white behaviors. It offers a unique lens from Fatimah Gilliam, a light-skinned Black woman, and is informed by the revealing things white people say when they don't realize she's Black.

Presented as a series of race rules, this book has each chapter tackling a specific topic many people of color wish white people understood. Combining history and explanations with practical advice, it goes beyond the theoretical by focusing on what's implementable.

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